but i dont just refuse to chase people because of pride. i refuse to chase people because i respect their space and boundaries. if youre not tryina talk to me, be around me, why would i impose myself forcefully? be at peace, without me.
granted, cis hetero men who fit standards of masculinity see being chased as their god given right. they want and expect it because it signifies power for them to be coddled and sought after no matter wtf crap they pull. it means you will take scraps coz theyre seaux important.
and they usually have the power to revoke or limit access, unlike everyone else.
even in terms of sex. women stay pressured into it and doing things they dont necessarily want, just to stay in good graces. but when men dont want to, they usually just dont and expect you to deal.
power dynamics are why, while men do get raped and coerced, it happens more often to everyone else at their hands.
its about who has the power to say no. for whom is chasing/being chased power, for whom is chasing an act of submission/being chased a violation of boundaries.
but regardless, im not imposing myself. if you want me around, i suppose you will show it. if you dont, you will be left alone.
